Now, of course there will always be exceptions, but generally successful people are happy, positive people. The question is: are they happy because they are successful, or are they successful because their positive attitude helped propel them towards success?

Answers may vary, but more likely, the successful people were able to get where they are now because they were, positive, confident, and did what needed to be done. Their "never say can't" attitude stemmed from within.

Feeling good about yourself can create an environment where events and life scenarios around you are easily experienced as positive. Even those that would otherwise seem negative. For example, the loss of a job may allow you to evaluate career paths. A person who loves themselves (and let us not confuse loving oneself with conceit),  will have more self-confidence in this circumstance. This confidence can allow for energy and self-encouragement when looking for a new job, and perhaps in a new direction, in such a way that might actually improve their life! The late David Brinkley, former NBC and ABC newscaster, said it right, "A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or her."

Loving yourself, even when challenges come your way will help you be happier with yourself, which in turn will help you be  happier with your life, which in turn will help you think positively about goals and life events, and allow you to never say can't. 

Reach for the Sky. 

A person of integrity should never have to lie about anything. While certain statements, ideas, or actions may not have the approval of others, as long as honesty is the first priority, integrity is at work. If someone feels that they have to lie about something, then there was something wrong with that initial act. However, everyone makes mistakes, and apologizing after the fact can also demonstrate integrity. Hiding, or denying a wrongdoing leads to greater consequences down the road. One lie leads to another and so on and so on.

Recently, a "friend" of mine came to discuss one of hey wrongdoings. She admintted to an act of infedelity. At the time, the unfaithful act "felt" right in the heat of the moment, and this was the defense she used to validate her behavior. The need to confess to someone and make excuses led me to believe that she felt internally guilty. She further defended herself by assuming that if her partner didn't find out, no harm was done. My friend was only lieing to herself. The necessity to find a rationale for her actions only firther supported my suggestion to confess to the person she was hurting by engaging in her wrongdoing. Withholding information is not the same as lieing per se, but can have similar consequences. I advised this friend to come clean with her partner. Harboring her guilt could just lead to further complications in the relationship. Being honest with herself and honest with her partner would demonstrate integrity as a person by admitting to a mistake. While integrity can take on differnt meanings, I believe a person's integrity does not mean their perfection, but rather, their effort to "do the right thing". Granted, nothing could be said further or admitted to her partner, and everything could work out fine, but is it worth the risk of having the truth come out later? This is certainly no easy feat to admit to her actions, so much so that the words, "I can't" quickly spewed from her mouth when I shared my thoughts on the steps she should now take..

In this situation, there were no "can't" options. I told her, "you CAN keep quiet and fester with guilt", or "you CAN admit to your wrongdoing and face up to the consequences". There was no can't scenario.  She ultimately decided she CAN find alternatives and sought mediation counseling to discuss the issue with her partner.

Never saying can't when it comes to personal endeavors may be easier than making the effort to push forward and say CAN when your actions involve another person.

Have you or someone you know been in a situation where it seemed easier to say "Can't" because you did not want to face up to a mistake? I'd love to hear how you overcame a can't attitude and dealt with the issue.

I like to garden. I have spent the past few weeks tending to my little plants - watering, pruning, etc. Taking the time out to do somthing you enjoy can have such a positive impact on your life. Specifically, when I garden, watching my plants grow allows for opportunity to reflect also on how I grow each year spiritually, intellectually, and devlopmentally. Despite all the downpours I have had in my area, and several days of flash heat waves, these little plants are pushing up towards the sky. These plants are another way to keep me encouraged and positive. Even if I have a "rainy day," I will continue to grow, and continue to reach for the sky.

Find something that you enjoy that can be symbolic of what you hope to achieve in your own personal development. The physical tending to this hobby, task, or craft will help you to emotionally and psychologically push forward in your own endeavors and never say can't.